Hey ladies! are you the one for whom the attraction starts working at the onset? A constant communication with HIM graduates to 'A Strong Emotional Attachment'.Your insecurities 'speak' themselves in various forms - frantic phone calls to HIM because not knowing exactly well whether he also shares the same emotions?
For a 'MAN', relations building process is not spontaneous or instantaneous. The two genders possess helluvian different approaches towards 'love'.
He may share same wavelength with you, may move to the width & depth of the issues, but it's nothing more than 'friendship'. HE may strike a chord with you immediately, may disclose some sooooooooo very secret issues, may ask you to lend your patient ears for his miseries, but........
He is affable, affectionate & is in agreeable relationship with you, but NOT COMMITTED!
You may move ahead to demonstrating your emotions to him, registering a passionate feeling for him publicly, but such things scarecely come from Him! he pushes you to the wall, the more emotionally demanding you become of him, the farther he moves. Things aggravate & poor aggrieved lady; with emotional baggage moves agog.
The million rupee question is - 'When & how men connect to you - emotionally, conscientiously, mentally & physically?' Why doesn't he feel intensly attached with the opposite sex?
Of course! men belong to different planet, their reactions are different. They aren't apologetic about 'not wearing their emotions up their sleeves'. They approach love, affiliations, affections with a variance; have an apparently no-frill approach to LOVE.
Women on the contrary, have 'emotions' embeded indispensibly, in their communication techniques. Also have less know how of 'How to communicate with men discriminately'.
Just because we WANT to communicate something to others, doesn't necessarily mean
that it's going to be perceived the same way, because effective communication (me being a Professor in communication is a great help ha! ha!) depends upon the response you get from the targetted audience, who again has varied moods, perceptions, mental filterations, sociological, pyschological,language barriers and most importantly: past experience drive them.
As human beings we develop certain "strategies" for dealing with fearful situations where REJECTION is a big risk. The same goes for the strategies for attracting the opposite sex. Women develop certain strategies that they THINK are going to work to get the man's interest and attention. May be getting gifts, helping out solving the problem or pulling him out of tension, but they remain ultimately of no avail.
Women think that they need to communicate verbally when they like a man... as if that's part of the necessary process of getting a guy and believe me men get communication diarrhoea.
Men know when they are getting "vibes" that a woman is sending positive vibes to them. And for the most part, they feel it's harmless and maybe even mildly flattering. But when a woman starts PURSUING him passionately and start talking about how she feels, he starts building up an 'invisible boundary' and creates NEGATIVE TENSION.
Men; strangely enough,can often be physically intimate with a woman and not even be THINKING about nurturing "serious relationship" at all. He may not really feel any pull towards the lady or any
emotional attraction for her. He might choose to abandon any contacts with her and adopt seclusion, upon serious and committed pursuation from woman's side.
It calls for applying ample research tools and methodologies to know as to why men should not revert back to a woman, who has been doing all kinds of favours to him, complying with all his physical and emotional needs and at the top of it - being physically very intimate and affectionate with him?
The answer to this question may spring up many surprises! Women when communicate their emotions, expressions crystal clear on a platter sans inhibition of any kind - they seemingly are in no possession of any 'Emotional BARGAINING POWER', as when a woman talks more with words and actions than men and in the whole process,loses her 'impact'. The repeated requests for consolidation of 'relation', bring to the surface - the unsuccessfully hindered 'Fears and Weaknesses'. Her desperation for love and recognition brings a drastic and ever so unfathomable, end to a relation. She is then recognized and registered as a 'lesser Mortal', 'Lower sex'.
A Woman shall be in possession of a positive mindset, attitude with recognizable self-esteem. When all is at it's place, the self-assured woman is given due recognition and she is recognized as an 'assertve': a beachcomber and It tells him that this is a woman who is self-assured and knows what she wants and how to get it. A man then feels compellingly gravitationed towards her and counts her as one; who is worthy of his valuable time and attention.
In other words, these are the "attitudes" a woman projects which make he irresistible to a man. It's what a woman is saying without actually saying it at all. She says it with her body language, with the way she carries herself and
the way she behaves inside a relationship.
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